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The greatest advisesI am currently cleaning my mailbox and I came upon this email. Sent by my friend who is a former officemate. History repeats itself... I will also send this to my colleagues.
THE GREATEST ADVISES
Don't date because you are desperate.
Don't marry because you are miserable. Don't have kids because you think your genes are superior. Don't philander because you think you are irresistible. Don't associate with people you can't trust.
Don't cheat. Don't lie. Don't pretend. Don't dictate because you are smarter. Don't demand because you are stronger. Don't sleep around because you think you are old enough and know better.
Don't hurt your kids because loving them is harder. Don't sell yourself, your family, or your ideals. Don't stagnate. Don't regress.
Don't live in the past. Time can't bring anything or anyone back. Don't put your life on hold for possibly Mr/Mrs Right. Don't throw your life away on absolutely Mr Wrong because your biological clock is ticking. Learn a new skill.
Find a new friend. Start a new career. Sometimes, there is no race to be won. Only a price to be paid for some of life's more hasty decisions. To terminate your loneliness, reach out to the homeless.
To feed your nurturing instincts, care for the needy. To fulfill your parenting fantasies, get a puppy. Don't bring another life into this world for all the wrong reasons. To make yourself happy, pursue your passions and be the best of what you can be.
Simplify your life. Take away the clutter. Get rid of destructive elements: abusive friends, nasty habits, and dangerous liaisons. Don't abandon your responsibilities but don't overdose on duty. Don't live life recklessly without thought and feeling for your family.
Be true to yourself. Don't commit when you are not ready. Don't keep others waiting needlessly. Go on that trip. Don't postpone it.
Say those words. Don't let the moment pass. Do what you have to, even at society's scorn. Write poetry.
Love Deeply. Walk barefoot. Dance with wild abandon. Cry at the movies. Take care of yourself.
Don't wait for someone to take care of you. You light up your life. You drive yourself to your destination. No one completes you - except YOU. It is true that life does not get easier with age. It only gets more challenging.
Don't be afraid. Don't lose your capacity to love. Pursue your passions. Live your dreams. Don't lose faith in your God. Don't grow old. Just grow YOU! Never regret a day in your lifeThis is one forwarded e-mail that I recieved yesterday. I find it very inspiring and I hope that you will like it. Read on...
One day I decided to quit... I quit my job, my relationship, my spirituality... I wanted to quit my life. I went to the woods to have one last talk with God. "God", I said. "Can you give me one good reason not to quit?" His answer surprised me...
"Look around", He said. "Do you see the fern and the bamboo?"
"Yes", I replied.
"When I planted the fern and the bamboo seeds, I took very good care of them. I gave them light. I gave them water. The fern quickly grew from the earth. Its brilliant green covered the floor.Yet nothing came from the bamboo seed. But I did not quit on the bamboo.
In the second year the Fern grew more vibrant and plentiful. And again, nothing came from the bamboo seed. But I did not quit on the bamboo. He said.
"In the third year, there was still nothing from the bamboo seed. But I would not quit. In the fourth year, again, there was nothing from the bamboo seed. "I would not quit." He said. "Then in the fifth year a tiny sprout emerged from the earth.
Compared to the fern it was seemingly small and insignificant... But just 6 months later the bamboo rose to over 100 feet tall. It had spent the five years growing roots. Those roots made it strong and gave it what it needed to survive. I would not give any of my creations a challenge it could not handle."
He said to me. "Did you know, my child, that all this time you have been struggling, you have actually been growing roots"
"I would not quit on the bamboo. I will never quit on you." "Don't compare yourself to others." He said. "The bamboo had a different purpose than the fern. Yet, they both make the forest beautiful."
"Your time will come", God said to me. "You will rise high!"
"How high should I rise?" I asked.
"How high will the bamboo rise?" He asked in return. "As high as it can?" I questioned.
"Yes." He said, "Give me glory by rising as high as you can." I left the forest and bring back this story.
I hope these words can help you see that God will never give up on you. He will never give up on you.
God says in Psalms 84: 11 that the Lord Jesus is your "sun (to give you warmth and joy) and shield (to protect you) and He will not withhold good things from those who walk uprighteously." No problem is too big for God to carry on His shoulder. Come to Him in prayer. Never regret a day in your life. Good days give you happiness; Bad days give you experiences; Both are essential to life. Keep going.... -- Happiness keeps You Sweet, Trials keep You Strong, Sorrows keep You Human, Failures keep You Humble, Success keeps You Glowing, but Only God keeps You Going! Waiting for the bushere's another forwarded e-mail that I got from my cousin. I still can relate that's why I never deleted it. hehehe. Sorry, Filipino words in some part of the e-mail.
You know, love is just like someone waiting for a bus. When the bus comes, you look at it and you say to yourself "eeee... so full... cannot sit down"."I'll wait for the next one". So you let the bus go and waited for the second bus. Then the second bus came, you looked at it you say, "eeee... this bus is so old... o So you let the bus go and again, decided to wait for the next bus. After a while another bus came, it's not crowded, not old but you said, "eeee... not air-conditioned ... better wait for the next one". So again you let the bus go and decided to wait for the next bus. Then the sky started to get dark as it is getting late. You panicked andjumped immediately inside the next bus. It is not until much later that you found out that you had boarded the wrong bus! So you wasted your time and money waiting for what you want! Even if an air-conditioned bus comes, you can't ensure that the air-conditioned bus won't break down or whether or not the airconditioner will be too cold for you. So people... wanting to get what you want is not wrong. But it wouldn't hurt to give other people a chance, right? If you find that the "bus" doesn't suit you just press the red button and get off the bus! (as simple as that!)
Hey who said life is fair??? The best thing to do is be observant and open while you scrutinize the bus. If it doesn't suit you, get off. But you must always have an extra something which you could use for the next bus that comes. But wait........ I'm sure you have this experience before. You saw a bus coming (the bus you want of course) you flagged it but the driver acted as if he did not see you and zoomed pass you! It just wasn't meant for you! (nakakainis!) The bottom line is, being loved is like waiting for a bus you want. Getting on the bus and appreciating the bus by giving it a chance depends totally on you. If you haven't made any choice, WALK! Walking is like being out of love. The good side of it is you can still choose any bus you want... the rest who couldn't afford another ride would just have to be content with the bus they rode on, ugly or not. One more thing... sometimes it's better to choose a bus you are already familiar with rather than gamble with a bus that is unfamiliar to you. But then again, life wouldn't be complete without the risks involved. PERO (BUT) THERE'S ONE BUS THAT I FORGOT TO TELL YOU ABOUT - THE BUS THAT YOU DONT HAVE TO WAIT FOR... KUSA SYANG HIHINTO AND WILL ASK YOU TO COME INSIDE AND TAKE A FREE RIDE FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE... ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ "How Come You Don't Have a Boyfriend?"I have been thinking, time flies really fast. We just celebrated the coming of the New Year and now, we’re already at the 8th day of January. Then, February… and before you know it, it's Valentine’s Day.
Some people expect others to go out and date at this particular day. It’s like going to the Yule Ball (Harry Potter, GF23). You have to have a partner.
And it so happens that some people (myself included) are still enjoying their single hood (sugar-coated or not), unfortunately, they, sometimes, are the target of the annoying question: "How come you don’t have a boyfriend?" So annoying that you sometimes want to hide the whole day. Or, if I may just quote Kelsey, the Single Awareness Day.
Here are some quick smart answers to that annoying question: 1. The Arrogant Approach
"Boyfriend? I don't date boys. I date men." 2. The "I love my independence" Approach
"All men I date keep asking me to marry them and I'm just not ready to commit." 3. The Confident Approach
"I'm already engaged to someone. Only he doesn't know it yet." 4. The "I've watched too many gangster movies" Approach
"Why don't I have a boyfriend? Why don't you have a life? Haven't you got anything better to do with your time than to ask me stupid questions? Now get out of my face before I really lose my temper." 5. The Clueless Approach
"A boyfriend? Is that like a girl scout?" 6. The "danger-lover" Approach
"I only like dating cold-blooded criminals and all the best ones are behind bars." 7. The Flirtatious Approach
"I don't have a boyfriend because I'm saving myself for you." 8. The Wounded Approach
Stare off sadly into the distance with teary eyes, feign a lump in your throat and say, "I did love someone once. . ." (This will embarass the questioner, who will then leave you alone.) 9. The Mysterious Approach
Lower your voice to whisper and say, "I'm romantically involved with a very important person and our relationship is top-secret. If I old you who he was, something terrible might happen to me." (This will worry the questioner who will then leave you alone.) 10. The Lunatic Approach
Begin to laugh hysterically, stop suddenly and then stare directly at the questioner while saying nothing. This will frighten the questioner who will not only leave you alone, he or she will never speak to you again. I think I can do No.8. That will surely embarrass the questioner once I shed a tear in my left eye. Hehehe. Talk about turning the table.
By the way, about the Yule Ball, I found it’s website and I just love the design. Click here. Quotes from Sex and the City1. If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away. If he doesn't want you, 2. Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior. 3. If you have ANY doubt in your mind about a man's character, leave him 4. Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache. 5. Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to 6. Don't force an attraction. 7. Slower is better. 8. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly 9. If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you 10. Have faith in God regarding your relationship, but don't let faith make 11. Don't settle down. 12. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is. 13. If he keeps changing his mind about the relationship--take that as a 14. Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at 15. Honorable men take care of their business and aren't involved in a 16. The only person you can control in a relationship is you. 17. There's only one 'reason' a man dumps you; he doesn't want you. 18. Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. 19. You really do have to kiss a few frogs before finding the prince. 20. Always put yourself and your happiness first. 21. Always have your own set of friends separate from his. 22. Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you. If something bothers you, 23. If he doesn't call, he just isn't that interested. 24. Be honest and upfront. 25. Know when to cut the cord, don't be strung along. 26. Don't fall for the "I'm confused role". Remove yourself from the 27. If you want to have a clue as to how he will treat you, watch how he 28. There's more than physical abuse, there's emotional and mental abuse. 29. You cannot change a man's behaviors. Change comes from within. 30. Don't let him place rules on you that he is not willing to follow 31. Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he 32. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing 33. Demand respect and if he can't give it, he can't have you! 34. Don't compete with other woman, but be aware that men are attracted to 35. If you think he is cheating, he probably is. Confront him right away 36. Actions speak louder than words. 37. Never let a man define who you are. 38. Never rely on a man for compliments, look to yourself for that. 39. Never borrow someone else's man. 40. If he cheated with you, he'll cheat on you. 41. Just because he says he loves you, doesn't mean that he won't hurt you 42. To use painful hard-won wisdom -- 'get it right' the next time. 43. Know that you deserve to be the number one person in the life of the 44. Love is a verb .. 45. Learn to give up your lifelong task of trying to make someone 46. A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you. 47. All men are NOT dogs. 48. You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two 49. If you don't love yourself...you can't love anyone else. 50. You cannot mend someone else's broken heart. 51. You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute 52. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship 53. Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right. 54. NEVER give more in a relationship than you are getting out of it. 55. Never become your man's "therapist". 56. When actions and words conflict, believe the actions. Respond to the 57. A real healthy relationship requires two people. One person can end it 58. Don't fall for the "I'm not the loving type"...when a man loves you 59. Make him miss you sometimes...when a man always know where you are, and 60. Give him his space...let him go out with his boys, don't pressure him 61. If you wouldn't allow your daughter to be with him you shouldn't. 62. Never let a man know everything. He will use it against you later. 63. Never move into his mother's house. 64. Provide financially for yourself and don't depend on anyone. 65. Never co-sign for a man. 66. Never believe you have the perfect guy and he is so innocent. 67. Never spoil your man; let him spoil you. 68. Never let a man mess up your credit. 69. When it's time to let go; let go. 70. Good men should be treated like good men. 71. Don't play games. 72. Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you 73. Keep him in your radar but get to know others. 74. Compatibility in terms of educational attainment, values, beliefs, 75. Never date a guy who wears colored contacts.
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